Many people view alone time as the best thing ever. But you? You view it as a fate worse than death. Instead of relaxing, you pass the hours pacing your apartment, or wondering what the heck to do with yourself.
It’s not an ideal reaction, but it is a totally normal one. I mean, think about it: If you’re used to being connected on a 24/7 basis, then of course the idea of going solo will feel a bit scary. Not to mention, it’s always a tad unnerving to see what the ol’ brain will cook up once it’s sans distractions.
There is a saying that goes something along the lines of ‘You must love yourself first before you can love someone else.’ Similarly, I personally believe that you must be comfortable and happy in your own company before you can truly be yourself in the company of others. There is a massive difference between being lonely and being alone. Loneliness is a horrible feeling. However, you don’t have to actually be alone to feel that way. Many times, I’ve felt lonely when surrounded by a big group of people. In contrast, being alone can actually be a blessing, particularly when you’ve actively chosen it.
I’m very introverted and I like spending time alone. I don’t merely enjoy it – I need it. Spending time with other people is of course fun too, but it exhausts me, and I need plenty of time to recharge my batteries by just being by myself. But being alone is not only for introverts – I really think that everyone, even the most extroverted of extroverts, can benefit from spending time by themselves.
1. Ease Into Alone Time and You’ll get smarter.
Alone time isn’t all just binge-watching your favorite shows in sweatpants. Many introverts spend their solitude reading books and articles or listening to podcasts. And the benefits of reading are huge, including helping to keep your brain sharp, possibly staving off Alzheimer’s disease, and even making you more empathetic (if you read fiction).
If the thought of spending time alone makes your blood run cold, then start off slowly. “Don’t jump right into a weekend long Netflix marathon,” Martinez says. “Build up your tolerance and find activities that you enjoy that also serve to calm and distract while you are alone.” Before long, larger swaths of solitude won’t feel so scary. And hey — you might even find it enjoyable.
2. improve your Health.
You can also use your alone time to do something healthy (mentally or physically) like jogging, yoga, meditation, or prayer. Regular exercise is basically a wonder drug for your mind and body, and meditation has been shown to increase your immune function, decrease pain, boost your happiness, make you less lonely, and So. Much. More.
3. Go Out On The Town
No one ever said spending time alone meant locking your door and camping out at home. “If you hate being alone because you feel stir crazy at home, a change in location could do the trick,” said Hall. Go grab a coffee, walk around town, or read in the park. This still counts as “alone time,” even though you’re not technically by yourself.
4. Meditation is the best solution for alone time.
Below 10 ways to meditation :
- Live and Dare
- The Chopra Center
- Wildmind buddhist meditation
- Self Compassion
- Fragrant Heart
- How to be happy
5. Work On Your Relationships.
Spending time all by your lonesome is way easier when you know there are people out there who care. But when that’s not the case, alone can become quite the painful prospect. “A lack of depth and connection can make you feel less heard, understood, appreciated or secure in the fact that you do have someone to call should you needto,” Hall said. Working on your relationships — and focusing on the good people in your life — can definitely make it easier.